Today is October 1st, can you believe it? That means that there are only 3 more months left before the end of the year. This month is also breast cancer awareness month. So in today’s Mom Style post, I’d like to do something a little different. Today, Keshema my dear friend is sharing her Mom Style about being a mom that also happens to be a three time breast cancer survivor. Read her Mom Style interview below.
Q: What’s one thing you wished someone had told you about this beautiful yet ever changing journey?
Being a new young mother in my mid thirties was new and exciting! Motherhood does not come along with instructions, and cancer surely did not make any exceptions for me because I am a mom. I wish that prior to my journey someone had told me to face reality head on and to be more transparent with my son. I hid many things from my two year old son at the time… like the fact I was losing my hair and the pain I was in. The reality is, it did not matter to him. All he knew was that I was his mom and he loved me unconditionally. I wish I knew at the time to embrace my journey and not worry what others might think including my son. The funny thing is, he now talks about that time when mommy had no hair, I had no clue he knew!
Q: Who is your favorite TV mom?
When I thought about having a favorite TV mom, several women came to mind. Believe it or not my most recent favorite TV mom is Kim Kardashian. I have seen her recently interact with her daughter North on the hit reality hit show “The Kardashians”. I admire how she makes no exceptions, despite her busy schedule to have and one on one time with baby North. Regardless of what one chooses to do in life or as their career, being a compassionate and loving mother is one attribute I admire and can clearly see it with Kim and baby North.
Q: How old is your son?
He is now six years old and a fabulous first grader! (*update: Keshema’s son is now 8 years old and rocking out in 3rd grade).
Q: What’s it’s like being a mom that also happens to be a breast cancer survivor? What should other mamas know?
I am sure many will agree being a mom is hard work. Well being a mom as a survivor is extremely hard. I can’t speak for everyone, but for me my energy levels are not the same. I have an extremely active and athletic son that will play sports all day if he were allowed to. I sometimes have to gear up myself to do things which use to be second nature for me. It requires more planning and sometimes taking a rain check but, for the most part I continue to tell myself I can, even when I know I can’t. Watching him grow and wanting to be there every step of the way is what keeps me going. I always remind myself of how lucky I am. When I think of how hard others may have it, or those that did not have a chance to fight… I string up my shoes and head to the field for a game of soccer with my family.
Q: What is your favorite activity to do with your children? Why?
One of my favorite activities I enjoy doing with my son is reading books at bedtime. Sometimes he is reading and I am snoring, but I know these are memories he will never forget!
Q: If your “Mom Style” was a song title, what would it be? (No, seriously I need a real song)
You are amazing just the way you are by Bruno Mars.
Q: I know that you are not a blogger but, do you have a favorite blog post that keeps you going?
Q: What’s your “Mom Style”? Cool & Calm, Spirited & Free, Savvy & Sophisticated or “Type A” All the Way
My mom style is cool and calm.
I do have high expectations and encourage thinking out of the box. I always give a positive twist on things regardless of how bad it might look. I am a firm believer in being self proficient and continue to teach my son that anything is possible with hard work and prayer.
Q: As a mom, what do you know for sure?
As a mom, I know that I can only do my best and pray about the rest. I know the love I have for my son is unconditional. I know that my test in life is now my testimony and that it can only make me a better mom.
Thank so much for stopping by and sharing your Mom Style Keshema. I have to say, I didn’t predict that answer about Kim and baby North. It’s been two years since you shared your story on The Domestic Life Stylist. So much has changed but one thing that hasn’t is God’s grace and mercy. What an amazing woman you are! I am proud to call you friend.
Update October 2016: Original post was published on October 1, 2014 and have been edited for content and noted updates.
In September 2015, Keshema was re-diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer and is currently going through chemotherapy. She considers herself blessed because she is able to be a mom, wife and live life.
Living with stage four cancer means that the cancer has moved into Keshema’s organs and that she has resolved that she will be on medication for the rest of her life.
“My name is Keshema Abramsen-Webbe. I am a lifer. Cancer sucks. BUT GOD!!!”
Keshema, you make us proud. You are a champion and I love you.
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