It should not be as much as a debate as it is a choice. Moms everywhere already have so much on their proverbial plate without having to defend their choice to be ” a working mom” or “work from home”, also known as “be a stay at home mom”. Also, it seems like society is more comfortable with women choosing one over the other versus, falling somewhere in between.
I know scores of women (myself included), that work a few times a month or more outside of the home. They actually make money from the comfort of their home working or running legitimate at-home businesses. Are they also to be considered stay-at-home- moms? It should not really matter.
What matters is making the best decision for you and your family.